Queerfishing: Does Your Partner Really Like You?
Photo credit: Book Riot Everyone is insecure in their relationship at some point or another. Insecurity is a common and relatable human...
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How To Make Stud Friends: From The Masc Perspective
Photo credit: Stylist.co.uk In my baby stud days, one of my favorite shows to watch was The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. It took one episode...
The Editor's Desk: Celebrate Your Pride Every Single Day, Not Just This Month
Todd Heisler/The New York Times Happy #PrideMonth lovers! The lovedby.her team has been celebrating pride all month, including dropping...
Uplifting Our Transgender Siblings: 6 Trans Funds You Can Donate Too
Photo credit: Vice Through the hustle and bustle of life, we sometimes forget the struggles of others in our community. While trans...
How to Manage Your Masculinity (With Your Fem Partner)
Photo credit: Shutterstock One of the things I love most about masc-for-fem relationships is the space they create for...
How To Approach Getting Tested With Your Partner
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Having an open discussion about STDs and getting tested with your partner is beyond important, even if that...
The Editor's Desk: Things I Learned While Dating During The Pandemic
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Girls, let the government and our apparently smart city officials tell it, the COVID-19 pandemic is basically...
Kenzo + Shantel
...when love gives you life After moving to a new town for grad school, Kenzo decided to create a Tinder profile and start their swiping...
How to Take Back a CHEATER...If You Want To
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Like 'Waiting to Exhale", most of Ciara's relationships, and various YouTube breakup videos have shown us,...
How to Introduce Darker Sexual Acts into Your Relationship
Photo Credit: Shutterstock For some, sex can be intimidating, especially when we want to start exploring darker aspects and themes of...
Four Ways to Find Your Peace Again After a Breakup
Photo credit: Shutterstock No matter the stage or length of the relationship a breakup is a hard time to live through for all parties...
Right Person, Wrong Time Or Just Not Compatible?
Photo Credit: Shutterstock One of my favorite shows of all time is ‘Living Single’, a beautifully executed black ‘90s sitcom set in a...
Ashleigh + Kia
...when love never stops blossoming While we’ve grown up hearing many stories from our cisgender parents, grandparents and extended...
How To Keep A Casual Relationship, Casual
Photo credit: Shutterstock Well, it finally happened—after three months of a hot queer summer, chilly queer fall has arrived and cooled...
Saying Sorry Is Not Enough: How to Better Understand Your Partner's Apology Language
Photo credit: Shutterstock We all know that admitting you are wrong and apologizing for whatever you were wrong about isn’t the easiest...
Simena + Carshema
...when love creates purpose Dating someone significantly younger than you can be a challenge. Will they be emotionally mature enough to...
Equity in Black Queer Relationships (From the Masculine Perspective)
Photo Credit: Shutterstock If done the healthy way, a stud-for-femme relationship can be more beautiful than sun-kissed melanin dabbed...
Kourtney + Iman
...when love fills you up Frequent Tinder users know that for every 12th match you make, you MIGHT actually go on one date. More often...
4 Ways to Overcome Dating Anxiety
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Listen, dating is already hard. You know what, let’s be honest, most of the time, dating absolutely sucks. The...
Showing Support: Black Queer Charities to Donate To
Photo Credit: Shutterstock The past year and a half was not good for a lot of us, regardless of gender or sexuality, and in some...
A Letter from the Editor: How Our Lovetelling Has Changed
To be honest girls (and boys), lovedby.her almost didn’t make it to year two. Because frankly, year one was not an easy one. And while...
Taty + 7Even
...when love makes you grateful Sharing your life with a partner doesn’t necessarily always mean, sharing your life. Not every couple can...
How To Stay Safe + Aware During Pride Events
Photo Credit: Rajesh Jantilal/AFP/Getty Images The time for Pride season has come once again. Even with more people getting the COVID...
Black Queer Guide To Celebrating Pride 2021
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Now that folks are vaxxed, waxed and ready to get back to hitting the streets, we are all excited for Pride...
Casual Sex Health Guide For A #HotQueerSummer
Photo Credit: Shutterstock Sundress and basketball shorts weather is upon us, meaning summer is almost here and us queers will be ready...
Seeing Media That Doesn’t See You: Part 2
Photo Credit: Shutterstock This is part two of a series in which we will explore black media that we all consumed and were shaped by...
How To Travel The Queer Way: A Black Queer Travel Guide
Photo Credit: Shutterstock With summer around the corner and more and more vaccinations rolling out, traveling around the world is going...
Seeing Media That Doesn’t See You: Part 1
Photo credit: Shutterstock This is part one of a series in which we will explore black media that we all consumed and were shaped by...
Pussy Purity: Why Being a Gold Star Lesbian is Overrated
Photo credit: Shutterstock For a lot of us, the term "gold star" goes back as far as barrettes and jungle gyms. In our kindergarten days,...
Ashley + Asia
New couple, Ashley and Asia, talk to LBH about falling with one another after their respective divorces from men, coming out later in life a
Giselle + Laci
...when love provides you safety Life never truly prepares us for the responsibilities of maintaining a consistent stream of income,...
Budget Or No Budget: Valentine's Day Gift Guide For Lovers
Photo Credit: Shutterstock After a year of economic downturn and a global pandemic that is currently ongoing, the only thing some of us...
Birthing the Queer Way: Why Having A Black Doula Is Important
Photo credit: https://www.healthline.com/ The process of having a child and bringing new life into the world is supposed to be one of the...
Finding Your Financial Center: Workplace Discrimination
Photo Credit: Shutterstock The black queer community is no stranger to discrimination. And while every form of it is unacceptable,...
New Year, New Body: 5 Black Queer Fitness Trainers You Should Know
Photo Credit: Shutterstock The New Year is approaching, so you know what that means: New Year, New You. I am almost 100% sure that...
Trisha + Cierra
...when love feels like acceptance Let’s be honest, finding love before COVID-19 started impacting our communities and forcing us into...
Summer + Kendal
...when love opens you up You know what's okay to admit to both yourself, and to your partner sometimes? That relationships take work....
New Wave Representation: Black Queer Folks Fight in Legislation
Throughout the course of the Trump Administration, there has been a revival in struggles for the Black and queer community across the...
Finding Your Financial Center: A Financial Literacy Guide for Masc Centered Folks
Photo credit: Shutterstock Money is a hard thing to navigate. I won’t lie—it took me forever to figure out the basics of money management...
Therapy Before You Date: Mental and Emotional Health In the Black Queer Community
Photo credit: Shutterstock Romantic relationships really are the kryptonite of the black queer community. It seems that we are always...
Should You Date a Poly Womxn If You're Not?
Photo credit: Shutterstock You—a monogamist and perpetually single queer—are lying in bed one night, swiping on Tinder in the hopes of...
Black Queer Podcasts You Should Be Listening To Pt. 2
Photo credit: Shutterstock Thanksgiving is finally upon us, and I don't know about y'all but this is one of my favorite holidays. I mean...
How to Cope With Spending The Holidays Alone
Photo Credit: Shutterstock The holiday season is usually a cheerful time where family and friends come together to celebrate and...
Brianna + Whitney
...when love feels like freedom Relationships come to us with many different forms and provide us with many different experiences. Some...
#DatingBetweenTheLines: Do's and Dont's of Dating A Stem
Photo credit: Shutterstock This past Pride month we educated our readers on all of the important queer terms they should know. And just...
#SociallyMuted: 6 Black Lesbian Twitter Topics that Need to Die Out
Six black lesbian twitter topics that never need to be brought up again
Roc + Amber
...when love is intentful There is loving someone for the sake of saying you love them, and then there is loving someone with actual...
#LoveMeInMyLanguage: How To Identify Your Partner's Love Languages
Photo Credit: Shutterstock We get it, properly identifying and then feeding your partner’s love language is no easy task. Not all of us...
#FlagOnThePlay: How To Spot Red Flags In Your Relationship
What are some common red flags in relationships and how can you spot them?
#Honeyscopes: How To Love Your Virgo Partner
Learn how to love your Virgo girlfriend properly.
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