#GetTheStrap Part-Two: Choosing the Right Dildo for Your Partner


We are back to ‘strap talk’ people because “the strap” is a two part sex toy that goes both ways–in certain ways. We’ve established that your harness options are pretty limited, but the choice of the types of dildos you can place within that harness are pretty endless.


There are small dildos, large dildos, ones with a lot of girth, and ones with no girth at all, flesh toned dildos, rainbows dildos, ones that feel as real as possible and ones that feel exactly like what they are–silicone. But the biggest questions that are always being asked on social media is: before you buy these straps, do you ask your partner what size they prefer? Do you have options for them to choose from? Or do you just expect them to take whatever you pull out? Because even lesbians know that size really does matter. It depends not only on the person that is being penetrated but also the type of sex that you guys are having.


Honestly, you should always ask your partner what their length, girth and texture preferences are before having sex. But, we know sometimes these relations can happen on the fly and leave you unprepared. To help you avoid that embarrassing moment of them telling you that it’s’ “too small” or “too big” for them–we’ve created a harness proof chart of any and all dildo’s you should have in your collection. Because it’s better to be safe with a lot of options than to be sorry with nowhere to put the only option you have.


Size really does matter. Selecting the right dildo can be overwhelming. What your last sexual partner may have liked, your current one may not. For the strap carrier, having multiple straps is helpful and being open to buying a new one for a new partner is important. For the penetratee, it is important to know your likes and dislikes, and be able to communicate that with your sexual partner.


Find below the perfect size chart to help you and your partner determine which dildo size would work best for the both of you.




What about that girth? Length means nothing if the dildo is too wide or too thin for your partner to take. The diagram below shows popular girth sizes compared to the size of an average male penis.




Now let's get into options. Dildos come in variety to fit a variety of sexual experiences. Talking to your partner about what style dildo they prefer is just as important as finding one that you are comfortable using.

What dildo size is best for beginners? Your partner has communicated with you that they never used a dildo before but is willing to try. Ease them into that experience with a soft silicone dildo that is humble in size but not in pleasure. Try: the Curve g-spot dildo $16


Time to level up. Ready to expand your sensations? They say the thicker the dildo, the thicker the orgasm. Widen your partner's sexual experience by using a thicker, more realistic dildo for ya'll next go round. Try: 'Bandit' by Vixen Creations $116



Don't stop until you hit the g-spot. A dildo doesn't have to be overwhelmingly big to hit your partner's g-spot. By using a slightly curved dildo with a thicker head, you can maneuver to her 'right spot' with ease. Try: 'Tantus Curve' from Pleasure Chest $69



Double or nothing. Your partner doesn't have to be the only one being pleasured! One side can be for her and one side can be for YOU. Double up your sexual efforts by trying out a double sided dildo. Try: Fetish Fantasy Double Delight Strap-On $50



A strong spiritual connection. Create a deeper sexual experience for you and your partner by connecting to the heart chakra internally, and with pleasure with a rose quartz dildo. Try: Chakrubs The Heart Slim Rose Quartz Dildo $140



Go big or go home. You guys have tested the waters and realize that bigger is really better. The longer the dildo the closer to–just kidding! Bigger dildos can be either in length or in girth. Help your partner reach both maximum capacity and pleasure by strapping up with a long one. Try: 'Mason Dildo' from the Pleasure Chest $160


What size dildo do you prefer? And what brands would you recommend for first time buyers?


Written by: Kee Simone (@thebaddiegalore) + Ashley Clark (@GoldieFro)